BFF?
Do you realised that as you grow older, you find it harder to make friends? Its like as you grow older, you also grow wiser and more wary. Wary to make new friends, wary to trust your life to them, your future, your past.
When you are just a kid, a little boy or girl playing in the field, my generation would catch spiders, those friends that you made then, do they still stay with you? Mine does, they are not the usual acquaintances but friends you can talk to. And even if you don’t talk to them for a while, the next time you catch up, its like you never left.
When we were young, making friends is such an easy thing. You just have to talk to the person, share a toy or something and if all goes well, you are almost friends for life. Like they say in South Park, BFF! Best Friend Forever!
Now, if you talk to a person or share a toy, they think you are crazy.
Is it possible to make a BFF kind of friend as you grow older? If your BFF goes away, can you make a new one? Sometimes just have to try right?
Over these few years, I’ve made some new friends whom I can call upon them to go thru my trials and tribulations, C is one of them. Although I have to sit thru her anxiety about finding a mate, she would still give me her time to listen to my problems, ahh.. the price of a listening pair of ears.
There are of course more than one person, but I think I need to stop now, coarse sands are getting into my eyes..
it’s harder to make best-friends now because everyone has their own BFF. Unless the other party is looking for one of his/her own BFF kind of friend too.
i feel so sad for myself now that i read this.
Yeah man. I mean you didnt send me the bikini pics until I asked you to. What kind of friend are you? Beers on you.
ehhh, u making me all marshy n soft inside, going to cry liao lah…
okie, me try to come back earlier with more donuts/chocolates/grey goose and mayb absinthe. we can all get DRUNK together…more often. i think everyday better.
you are my BBBF.
Best Bitch Buddy Forever
possible but hard, given how popular cynicism is nowadays.
we were grow older we become more judgemental. unlike when we were young, we are so innocent and anyone also can make friend.
Amen my brother. I only have one friend, a girl from work. Some people from school, but we rarely go out. IT ain’t easy, being cheesy, IEIEIEIEIE
Amen my brother. I only have one friend, a girl from work. Some people from school, but we rarely go out. IT ain’t easy, being cheesy, IEIEIEIEIE
true…very true…
Sadly, I find it hard.
I find its easier to find temporary friends, and the sparks will just go away after a few brief meetups, and as if something unspoken had been agreed upon, and they became one of the acquaintances in life.
I find it quite tiring to put in that much affections into new friends these days, cos they seem to be passersby and never stay for long, despite me yearning for a really genuine piece of BFF…. but its hard to find like-minded pple, isnt it?
There could still be.. but … i dunno…
this is not a good topic. too emotional. *sniff*
I dont believe its difficult to make BFF nowadays, although we might have some unseen barriers within us preventing us from doing that. I supposed when we were younger, we were more accepting and innocent. But now that we’ve grow up, we choose our friends ‘wisely’ soo its kind of sad at times too, that we have to actually judge and choose friends this way..
When we were younger, we did not have as many demands on another, whether friendship or otherwise. As we grew older, as we were exposed to many more sides of life and humanity, we start to define what we liked, what we preferred and what we don’t like. Of course, it did not help that some of us got hurt by another along the way, which directly and indirectly influenced our newfound wariness of people.
BFF? I agree friends made during the innocence of childhood are the greatest, because they had seen us in our best and our ugliest and had accepted us. Perhaps, if we demand more of ourselves as friends than of our friends, who’s to say there can’t be more BFFs?
I feel I left all my sad remains of friends back home last year and haven’t made any new ones, except being kind of friendly with some gals at work. I guess besides everything, one gets also lazy at making friends!
How to defind friend?????
I guess it’s harder to make good friends as we grow older because we aren’t as trusting as when we were younger.
When we are older we just have more seasonal friends, We get close for an event or period, and after that pple just go their own way back to thier lifes and their own friends.
Pple also tend to stick to their own groups, one feels obliged to stay with the same group when they move around. thus it is harder to meet new pple.
Sometimes i hope i have a good BFF , who will go with my ideas, and at the same time i will support he’s, one that i am willing to go thru thick and thin for, while expecting nothing in return. But this is life… maybe we should treasure wat we have now? then releasing everything we have for something new?
Share your money and BBFs would appear….
..ok… they would be gone as fast once u stop sharing….
The older we get, the more loneliness we feel….
biang i sure am leaving a lot of comments. i’m just going through your archives now coz i’m tired of working. “P
somehow, things might be a little different for me. in that, now that i’m in my 20’s, i find myself somewhat more accepting and less demanding of friends. i’m probably still as cynical as i was in my teens but i’m less angry.
i find myself trying to open up more (keyword: trying) and get to know more people coz i’ve been pretty shut up all my life. i do have true friends, but think i can count them with two hands? probably coz i’ve been crazy and temperamental and basically a pathetic specimen of a friend all my life.
what more, these days everyone seems to be too busy to meet up. so i figured i ought to learn to open up and make new friends.
and my “mission” is to be a better friend to my existing friends and to my future friends.