Don’t wake up
Why does watching someone sleeps next to you an enjoyable thing to do?
I guess this doesn’t applies to everyone who happens to sleep beside you. Especially not someone whom you barely know sleeping in close quarter in a small chalet.
Its more about the feeling that you have for that someone. That something you felt, when you see this someone in the most natural position someone can be in.
From a classic guy’s point of view, it could be that you just want to protect her, that girl that you like who sleeps like a baby next to you.
From a girl’s point of view, it could be that you want to thank the guy who protects you by day and yet still take the crap from you at home.
You want to just stroke the person’s hair and just watch the person breath slowly, in peace. You want to be there if the other person wakes up from a nightmare and hugs her in her arms. Although it would be kind of weird for a guy to wake up and then cries on the girl’s shoulder in the middle of the night.
Do you miss the feeling of waking up in the morning and just stretch out your hand to look for that someone who was sleeping next to you? Do you feel the lost when you hand comes up empty? Do you feel the lost when your hand doesn’t comes up empty but it wasn’t the person you want to wake up with?
I am someone who believes that a person should sleep (in more sense than one) with someone they like first before they get marry. Sometimes, sleeping habits could turn some people off, or maybe two people are just compatible in bed but yet so very compatible in other aspects of life.
I think this would be something I want to tell my children to do next time. I wonder what their mother would say.
bah, this brings back memories. Not all good. Bah.
People watching me sleep scares the hell outta me.
And you’re right about sleeping habits. My ex was such a loud snorer I could never get to sleep and I’d kick him just to make him stop. Then he’d get pissed off and we’d argue.
I will not marry a snorer. Because it means many sleepless nights.
great post! going to sleep together and waking up together really is 1 of the greatest things for me.
I think that, for me, another reason is that having someone beside me makes me more convinced that it’s real and not a dream.. You know what they say about pinching yourself to make sure something’s not a dream? Perhaps I can pinch the bed-mate, and if she screams, then it’s real for sure..
cuddlebitch, begone from my sight!
hahahahahahahaha…. my aunt once shared room with me when we went on a family holiday. she did mention about me snoring and grinding my teeth…
all the best!!
cheerio,
yl.
when will i wake up again with this feeling… *sigh*
i tink the mother will freak out if its a daughter…lol
Great post! But I think the mum will freak out very much indeed. It’s a great feeling waking up next to the person who matters so much. Used to share room with my mum, she snores, so I am ok with snorers. My boy snores very much also, and it took me a few months to get used to it. And with his labbits scratching at the cage, I found myself falling asleep soundly after I get accustomed to the noise. I get sleepless with all of my ex-bfs, so it’s all about the person, maybe.
I agree that people should stay with each other for a while to know their living habits and to determine if they can stand it or not. Most often than not, marriages fail not just because of money issues, but also with the level of understanding with each other. It’s critical, so I don’t think people should avoid that because of some moral shit.
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if u really love that someone, habits is nothing. if it can be changed, change it, if you can do something about it, do something. or just get use to it. like the snoring, after a while it will be music to your ears. my hubby used to snore, i got him a contour pillow, no more snoring. my grandma snores, she’s passed away, i miss hearing her snoring. i like watching hubby sleeping, i always feel like kissing him all over the face when he sleeps.
I need contour pillow too. My neck is aching from the soft pillow.
I agree with this totally that you have to look for someone you can fall asleep with first b4 u marry the person. during sleep, that’s when the person looks most at ease. i wish i am able to remember the moments i got held to sleep. cos i slept a lot and i could literally sleep all the time so my ex then would just try 2 snuggle in aft he’s done w his stuf. but gone are the moments now, i guess though it feels different w/o the other holding u 2 sleep, it is just a matter of time and i seemed to have gotten used to it now. =)
love this post!
err… i think since your prefer people try sleeping with each other first before marriage, then it means you’d ahve to find a wife who has similar ideas right, so technically, your wide wouldn’t mind telling your kids that right? heh heh…
wife la, not wide… hehe.
anyway, i think when you watch someone you love sleeping beside you, you tend to reflect on all the reasons why they complete you and you love them more. i like that idea… i think it’s cool.
i think their mother would say “your dad is a khun sin yannoe and thats why he’s telling you that!”
if you ask your kids to sleep with someone (in more sense than one) before marriage, i am sure the future in-laws will scream.
Hahaha, but i do agree with your statement. And i am a chick. The whole protection thing as opposed to the male genitalia senses taking over, while watching a chick sleep.